 Safer BDSM - Meeting People
Its not always easy to meet people who share the same interests. Chats on
the Internet are a good place to get to know others with same or similar interests. Maybe
you already thought about meeting someone. Due to the limited forms of the chat
communication you hardly get a good impression how this person really is, so a meeting can
be a pretty surprising adventure.
A few safety concerns should help you to make it at least a safe meeting
for the involved parties.
- If you have any concerns regarding the other person, don't let yourself be pushed into a
meeting that you don't want.
- The first meeting should be in a public place, a cafe or restaurant for example - never
in the person's house or apartment. This gives you the chance to have a cup of coffee with
the other person, talk a bit and if you see this person is nothing for you to back up
politely.
- Make sure a friend or someone you trust knows where you are and if possible leave a
phone number or address.
- If you agree with this person to involve into a sexual relationship or a BDSM act, make
sure you both tell each other what you expect (see
Communication).
- Agree with the person that you can make a safe call to a friend after the act at a
specific time. Discuss an "alert statement" with your friend - like "I am
fine", so your friend knows when something is wrong and can take appropriate steps.
- Again, no if's or but's - its your health and life. Trust is a wonderful thing, but
caution can be lifesaving.
A last word: If you have found a person you think s/he is the right one and you trust
this person - enjoy and value this wonderful gift, it is hard to find.
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