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| 24/7 | 24 h, 7 days = all the time - Often used to describe the kind of
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| BDSM | Bondage Domination Sado Masochism Term for activities of B&D, D&S, S&M |
| Blood Sports | Play involving cutting, piercing or the drawing of blood |
| Bondage | A group of techniques for rendering a submissive physically helpless (see also Bondage Lesson and Japanese Bondage) |
| Brat, bratting | Term for a sub who tries to get the attention of a Dom/me by stiring up trouble |
| Breath Play | Techniques which involve restricting or controlling one's breathing |
| Bukkake | Bukkake [bu-kak-ee] in Japanese is base form of a verb, as it stands alone it is a noun. Bukkake means
soak, splash or heavy squirt. In sexual context it is a noun variety of a fetish that involves repeated ejaculation on a female by many men. Around the late 80's early 90's a couple of Japanese video companies were trying to make videos that catered to facial and sperm lovers in Japan. So they decided to make videos that would consist of a girl getting facial after facial over and over again. |
| Bullwhip | A long, heavy leather whip |
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| Cane | Usually a 15-45 inch long stick used for spanking techniques |
| CBT | Cock and Ball Torture - Intense stimulation of the male sex by bondage, needles or clamps |
| Corporal Punishment, CP | Punishment by beating. The term CP sometimes implies a more vigorous beating than "spanking", but the two are often used interchangeably. |
| Contract | A written agreement about the rights and duties of the D/s partners. Those contracts do not have any meaning in terms of law, but they are often used to define the relationship. |
| Cupping / Suction play | Suction of the skin produced by the use of small glass cups
(medical toy) on the body. Types of cups: vacuum cups, fire cups Be careful as with too much suction you can create visible "hickeys". Use them on breasts, buttocks or wherever you'd like to feel these unique sensations. Do not use these on any one area for more than 5 minutes each time to avoid possible skin irritation or damage such as bruising. The Chinese used suction devices for therapeutic use like acupuncture and acupressure. |
| Crop | Riding Crop used for spanking techniques |
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| Discipline | Codeword for spanking, whipping etc. |
| Dom, Domme | A dominant male or female person - the person in charge/control (also Top) |
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| Edgeplay | These are particularly dangerous D&S that are looked upon with some trepidation - Often techniques which include blood sports and asphyxia |
| EPE | Erotic Power Exchange (see also TPE) |
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| Feminization | For a man to be dressed and often made-up as a female, either voluntarily or under duress |
| Fisting | Vaginal or even anal penetration using the fist/hand. |
| Flogger | A multi strap/string whip, straps/strings are usually up to 20 inch long and made of leather or rubber |
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| Gag | There are many kinds of different gags: ball gags, penis-shaped gags, sometimes even inflatable. |
| Golden Shower | A humiliation technique where the dominant urinates on the submissive (see Safety: Golden Shower) |
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| Masochism | The ability to derive pleasure from pain |
| Master, Mistress | see Dom, Domme - mostly used in terms of "ownership" |
| Mentor | A teacher, advisor - both subs and Dom/mes make use of a Mentor at certain times, at least it might be helpful and wise to do so. |
| Mummification | A form of bondage where the passive part is wrapped up more or less completely |
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| Paddle | A flat instrument used for spanking purposes - mostly made of leather or wood - sometimes with air holes for a better effect <eg> |
| Panic Snap | A linking device used with cable or chain that allows two lengths to be disconnected even when there is tension in the system. A safety device |
| Pet play, Petplay | Role play where the sub acts within the role of an animal like a pony, cat or dog. |
| Ponygirl | A submissive trained to act like a pony (see Pet play) |
| Poppers | A liquid stimulant which is sniffed. Poppers act by increasing the heart rate and raising the blood pressure. They
can intensify orgasm. Warning: Poppers can be quite dangerous. They may cause cell damage in your brain and heart- and blood circulation-problems. |
| Positions | (see also Slave Positions) |
| Pro-Domme | A Professional Dominatrix, who expects payment for her service. |
| Protector | A protector is one who is entrusted with the care of another's sub/slave - A protector is also one who will take the place of the Master/Mistress at any function the Master cannot attend. |
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| r/l or r/t | Real life or real time - see v/l, v/t |
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| Safeword | A word, phrase or signal the participants agree on which has the meaning of a stop sign - all play has to stop immediately when this signal is given. |
| SAM | Smart Ass Masochist: Term for a masochist who tries to control/direct the Dom/me |
| Slave | A person who gives the control to another person (Dom/me, Top) Sometimes used the same way as the term sub, some people distinguish a sub from a slave by pointing out that a slave doesn't have the possibility to chose her/his destiny. |
| Slave Positions | (see also Slave Positions) |
| Sounding | Male Urethral Play Sounding is used as a generic term for stuffing the cock. Actual penile urethral sounds are usually Van Burens (curved) and Dittels (straight). These are hard to find and can be quite expensive. Most stuffers use medical devices that are actually uterine dilators, called Pratts or Hegars but they are also commonly called SOUNDS. |
| Spanking | The application of stimuli with canes, whips, paddles, crops or even the bare hand which, outside of a scene, would be considered painful. |
| SSC / SSCF | Safe, Sane, Consensual - the credo and guideline for every BDSM play. Also SSCF - Safe, Sane, Consensual & Fun. |
| St. Andrews Cross | an X-shaped crucifixion device often made of wood. It's mostly used to tie the bottom to it in a spread position. |
| Submissive (sub) | A person who gives the control to another person (Dom/me, Top) |
| subspace | A state of mind and body - often like a trance - some describe it as "flying/drifting" - caused by endorphins emitted during an intense scene or stress. |
| STD | Sexual Transmitted Disease |
| Switch | A person who "switches" roles between submissive and dominant |
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| Top | A dominant male or female person - the person in charge/control (also Dom, Domme) |
| TPE | Total Power Exchange - term for an extreme form of a 24/7 D/s relationship (see also TPE) |
| TT (Tit Torture) |
Intense breast stimulation (for example with needles, clamps, tight bondage etc.) |
| Trainer | A trainer is one who teaches the sub/slave "new tricks" - don't mix this up with the term Master/Mistress |
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| Vanilla | Often used for "plain standard sex" - non BDSM sex |
| Violet Wand | An electric device usually in form of a glass cylinder which uses the effect of high frequent electric charges generated by a tesla device to apply intense stimulation |
| v/l or v/t | Virtual life or virtual time - often used to describe "online life" (e.g. in a Chat) in opposite to r/l (real life) |
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| Watersport | A humiliation technique where the dominant urinates on the submissive (see Golden Shower / GS) |
| Waxing, Wax Play | A technique where the Dominant brings hot wax on the submissive's skin (see also Wax Play) |
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Usually made of leather with a medium size handle and long braided leather strings. |
For a brief discussion of the terms Master, Trainer, Protector and Mentor please checkout Master John's Explanations - Thank's to mj for pointing me towards this resource |
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Author: Ashtarot - 06.09.1999 / 03.11.2002 |
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