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One of the first things a new sub asks is "how do i act?" or "what do i do?". This is an attempt to answer those questions. They are not meant to dictate exactly what to say or do, but to provide a guideline which may be tailored to each individual's personality.

  • Be polite. Dom/mes should be addressed in a respectful manner. It is customary to address them as Sir and Ma'am.
  • Learn the channel rules. Channels can differ in what is acceptable and what is not. Often, this will be part of the topic or retrievable by some simple commands. When in doubt, ask one of the channel ops or Moderators.
  • No trolling. Most bdsm channels do not allow it. Trolling means bluntly asking for a play or sex partner. It is rude and uncouth.
  • Do not interfere with a Dom/me and their sub(s). Do not assume that the sub or Dom/me needs "help".....unless specifically asked.
  • Do not interrupt a scene. Scening is when a Dom/me and sub "play" on the open channel. It is considered rude to continue talking in the channel during a scene.
  • Be yourself. Putting on an act may work at first, but it is hard to keep it up and will be disdained, when discovered. And it will be discovered.
  • Use common sense. A little common sense about people and situations goes a long way.
  • Don't constantly air you personal problems on the channel. We are all human and we all have problems. This does not mean you cannot ask for help.....just remember the fable of the boy who called "wolf" too often.
  • Have patience. It takes time to meet and get to know people. And every day, more and more people come to IRC.
  • Have fun! Isn't that why we are all here?
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